Yes to everything you said, Dr Julie. The differences between men and women should be celebrated, rather than neutered. Men will always be better at certain things, while women at others. Physiological differences do exist. I couldn’t be more grateful that my dad, husband and son, were and are, men with brave yet also tender hearts.♥️
Balance is required in all things. The western world is dangerously lopsided right now.
Public Education is a toxic mess where boys are openly discriminated against and humiliated by the almost universally feminized school culture. Women are proving to be petty and triumphant inheritors of the education culture and nobody seems to be in a position to correct their behaviour.
It strikes me that the feminized school culture is a rather natural result of predominantly women as teachers; in grade school k-8 it’s often all women. Even 65 years ago, a student was lucky to have a male teacher in Grade 5 but no sooner.
It’s top to bottom now. The primary school teachers have captured the reigns of the institution and are managing it as they would a classroom of toddlers. Arbitrary group punishment, patronizing and pedantic language, zero respect for freedom of speech. I’m outside the system but have to work with it to some degree. Boys are feeling marginalized and silenced.
Thanks for the confirmation of my suspicion, albeit a sad one. I have some experience of being married to a primary school teacher and understand who this could happen; what works in the lower grades is applied throughout even to seniors, then high schools and even colleges where I taught briefly. The infantilization was astounding. In the college level in Ontario, Canada, my colleagues were calling the students ‘kids’. I was shocked and they couldn’t see the problem and asked me, ‘well, what else should we call them? I replied the obvious, men, women, etc. It seemed not to occur to them that if you regard them kids, they will act like kids.
Excellent piece, thanks for writing it. I am fortunate to have been raised in a traditional household where masculine virtues were appreciated, and I continue this with my own family (although I have only daughters) My number one objective (so far successful) is to raise them to not see themselves as victims. Keep up the great writing and supporting this important cause.
Yes yes YES!! And no wonder some boys fall for the lie that they're in the wrong bodies. And no wonder so many men who seek transition seem drawn to embody the most difficult and limited stereotypes of women. We're all sorts of out of balance. The polarity which drives the engine of creation has been tortured into submission by this l o n g attack against masculine men. We all suffer the consequences of this. My heart breaks for my son who apologizes for the air he breathes - and the women who have been taught to ignore or revile him as "problematic " for embodying his essence.
I've been saying this for decades. I'm all for equal pay and opportunities. We need strong, thoughtful, and committed men and women for society to function.
I read this quote every now and then to remind myself. They start in schools very early telling my children half truths or lies. I have myself have not spoken up when I should have and i am sure teachers and others have wanted to but dont out of fear. It has taken me to dark places depressed even maybe. This quote makes me wonder by not speaking up do we become complicit maybe even losing our sense of what's morally right or wrong. Here is the quote.--- Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better. When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One's standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.
Thank you for writing this. I look forward to part 2. One of my favorite substack writers, eugypius, often reflects on the fact that the nanny state so many of us are abhor is ruled by a good number of head girl's.
forgive a second comment...I felt I didn't express myself well yesterday but the issue of female managerialism came to the fore recently with the elevation of Ms Maher to CEO of the NPR, ex Wikipedia censor and allegedly involved in the wonderfully successful arab spring revolution which totally turned muslim countries into fully functioning democracies. There is a clip of her TED talk where she casually claims that 'the truth is a distraction'! Part of the great cohort of privileged, animus gripped, female DEI managerialists against whom masculine men...or indeed independent women... just can't compete in organizations....so they withdraw. But I do not think the species is extinct....yet. there are a lot of mainly male truckers and physical mucky grafters upon whom we all depend....Douglas Murray asks the question in his latest Speccie article: "How many women want to be train drivers"!
A great article and so badly needed at this time. I watch the young girls today and some of their mantra is 'girls can do better than boys'. It is obviously taught to them in school, at home, and in social settings. As if males aren't needed or wanted. We need to appreciate the differences between males and females. One can't be here without the other.
just catching up! You guys are so consistently challenging, and if you get M, Dalrymple to the next conf. I'll stand you champers! I have been having some tussles re the issue of equality of opportunity v practicality, the huge role of terf feminists in turning back trans madness in UK, with male contribution less acknowledged, the assault on male spaces like the Garrick Club v the destruction of women's sports and bathroom privacy and risk....and on it goes. Seems to me where it goes wrong is when women's opportunity interferes with balance and service, eg in fire service tests, military strength, and the rarely acknowledged truth that not only most women want babies and time to be with them but many even to leave careers. Should service provision take precedence over equality of opportunity? I remember hearing a talk from the UKs first female fighter pilot and all she went through, before getting pregnant and leaving. The RAF has been caught positively discriminating against white men, and the British Army's first female Lt General is into all this nonsense. With many organizations like the UK/Ireland RNLI, the issue hasn't been the invasion of women into masculine roles which modern technology allows, as opposed to the hairy-arsed, bearded fishermen of yesteryear, but the terrible female managerialist class who destroy everything they touch......have I mentioned C of E female bishops? I feel a needed re-reading of Jung coming on!
To the esteemed members of the American Psychological Association (APA): while some may prattle on about masculine toxicity, perhaps a glance at your evolutionary psychology colleagues would offer a more enlightening perspective on sex differences.
So true - Homer is actually complicated. Not the greatest example in a sense, as he does have many redeeming features. (I was a big Simpsons fan for a long time) -Chris
He's a loveable buffoon, but still a buffoon. As is Bart, as opposed to the studious and responsible Lisa. No doubt who the strong characters are in the Simpsons!
One thing which is important to remember is the statistics on gender differentials in university programs in say law, medicine and engineering. The last I checked, it was more than slightly tilted in favour of women. This shows the end result of the problem which is, in my view, so obvious in the early formation years of our young.
Yes to everything you said, Dr Julie. The differences between men and women should be celebrated, rather than neutered. Men will always be better at certain things, while women at others. Physiological differences do exist. I couldn’t be more grateful that my dad, husband and son, were and are, men with brave yet also tender hearts.♥️
Men and women were made different on purpose. Let’s get back to that balance.
I love this article! I'm a woman with very similar thoughts. I'm royally sick of the cloying version of "caring" championed in our feminized society.
Balance is required in all things. The western world is dangerously lopsided right now.
Public Education is a toxic mess where boys are openly discriminated against and humiliated by the almost universally feminized school culture. Women are proving to be petty and triumphant inheritors of the education culture and nobody seems to be in a position to correct their behaviour.
It strikes me that the feminized school culture is a rather natural result of predominantly women as teachers; in grade school k-8 it’s often all women. Even 65 years ago, a student was lucky to have a male teacher in Grade 5 but no sooner.
It’s top to bottom now. The primary school teachers have captured the reigns of the institution and are managing it as they would a classroom of toddlers. Arbitrary group punishment, patronizing and pedantic language, zero respect for freedom of speech. I’m outside the system but have to work with it to some degree. Boys are feeling marginalized and silenced.
Thanks for the confirmation of my suspicion, albeit a sad one. I have some experience of being married to a primary school teacher and understand who this could happen; what works in the lower grades is applied throughout even to seniors, then high schools and even colleges where I taught briefly. The infantilization was astounding. In the college level in Ontario, Canada, my colleagues were calling the students ‘kids’. I was shocked and they couldn’t see the problem and asked me, ‘well, what else should we call them? I replied the obvious, men, women, etc. It seemed not to occur to them that if you regard them kids, they will act like kids.
Excellent piece, thanks for writing it. I am fortunate to have been raised in a traditional household where masculine virtues were appreciated, and I continue this with my own family (although I have only daughters) My number one objective (so far successful) is to raise them to not see themselves as victims. Keep up the great writing and supporting this important cause.
Yes yes YES!! And no wonder some boys fall for the lie that they're in the wrong bodies. And no wonder so many men who seek transition seem drawn to embody the most difficult and limited stereotypes of women. We're all sorts of out of balance. The polarity which drives the engine of creation has been tortured into submission by this l o n g attack against masculine men. We all suffer the consequences of this. My heart breaks for my son who apologizes for the air he breathes - and the women who have been taught to ignore or revile him as "problematic " for embodying his essence.
I've been saying this for decades. I'm all for equal pay and opportunities. We need strong, thoughtful, and committed men and women for society to function.
I read this quote every now and then to remind myself. They start in schools very early telling my children half truths or lies. I have myself have not spoken up when I should have and i am sure teachers and others have wanted to but dont out of fear. It has taken me to dark places depressed even maybe. This quote makes me wonder by not speaking up do we become complicit maybe even losing our sense of what's morally right or wrong. Here is the quote.--- Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, not to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better. When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is in some small way to become evil oneself. One's standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.
Theodore Dalrymple
PS: I'm after Dalrymple to be a speaker at our next Free Speech in Medicine conference...
-Chris
We love Theodore Dalrymple! And I love that quote. Much truth in it!
Thank you for writing this. I look forward to part 2. One of my favorite substack writers, eugypius, often reflects on the fact that the nanny state so many of us are abhor is ruled by a good number of head girl's.
forgive a second comment...I felt I didn't express myself well yesterday but the issue of female managerialism came to the fore recently with the elevation of Ms Maher to CEO of the NPR, ex Wikipedia censor and allegedly involved in the wonderfully successful arab spring revolution which totally turned muslim countries into fully functioning democracies. There is a clip of her TED talk where she casually claims that 'the truth is a distraction'! Part of the great cohort of privileged, animus gripped, female DEI managerialists against whom masculine men...or indeed independent women... just can't compete in organizations....so they withdraw. But I do not think the species is extinct....yet. there are a lot of mainly male truckers and physical mucky grafters upon whom we all depend....Douglas Murray asks the question in his latest Speccie article: "How many women want to be train drivers"!
A great article and so badly needed at this time. I watch the young girls today and some of their mantra is 'girls can do better than boys'. It is obviously taught to them in school, at home, and in social settings. As if males aren't needed or wanted. We need to appreciate the differences between males and females. One can't be here without the other.
just catching up! You guys are so consistently challenging, and if you get M, Dalrymple to the next conf. I'll stand you champers! I have been having some tussles re the issue of equality of opportunity v practicality, the huge role of terf feminists in turning back trans madness in UK, with male contribution less acknowledged, the assault on male spaces like the Garrick Club v the destruction of women's sports and bathroom privacy and risk....and on it goes. Seems to me where it goes wrong is when women's opportunity interferes with balance and service, eg in fire service tests, military strength, and the rarely acknowledged truth that not only most women want babies and time to be with them but many even to leave careers. Should service provision take precedence over equality of opportunity? I remember hearing a talk from the UKs first female fighter pilot and all she went through, before getting pregnant and leaving. The RAF has been caught positively discriminating against white men, and the British Army's first female Lt General is into all this nonsense. With many organizations like the UK/Ireland RNLI, the issue hasn't been the invasion of women into masculine roles which modern technology allows, as opposed to the hairy-arsed, bearded fishermen of yesteryear, but the terrible female managerialist class who destroy everything they touch......have I mentioned C of E female bishops? I feel a needed re-reading of Jung coming on!
To the esteemed members of the American Psychological Association (APA): while some may prattle on about masculine toxicity, perhaps a glance at your evolutionary psychology colleagues would offer a more enlightening perspective on sex differences.
Exactly. Just take a look at primate behaviour if you want to disabuse yourself of the "it's all culture" illusion.
On the other hand. I always found the Homer-Lisa dynamic endearing. Homer always came through for her - and his family.
So true - Homer is actually complicated. Not the greatest example in a sense, as he does have many redeeming features. (I was a big Simpsons fan for a long time) -Chris
He's a loveable buffoon, but still a buffoon. As is Bart, as opposed to the studious and responsible Lisa. No doubt who the strong characters are in the Simpsons!
--Julie
One would hope Lisa would see through the COVID propaganda like she did with meat industry and Bovine University.
Same here. From the period they appeared on The Tracy Ullman Show to around '98. Didn't watch after that.
You mean you're not a fan of Barbie??? My teenaged girls' friends were absolutely gaga about the movie.... so inspiring!!
One thing which is important to remember is the statistics on gender differentials in university programs in say law, medicine and engineering. The last I checked, it was more than slightly tilted in favour of women. This shows the end result of the problem which is, in my view, so obvious in the early formation years of our young.